Self-mastery is the ability to take control of one’s life without being blown off course by feelings, urges, circumstances etc.. (Collins English Dictionary)
So, the simple question is…How does one Master the Self?
You came into this life with the blueprint already etched into your soul, however, Society already has a template of how you should be which usually differs from your original blueprint. Its ok because technically you completely forget that you have this blueprint by the time you are 5 years old (sometimes younger). No worries though, The Universe is going to make sure that you remember this blueprint (or at least pieces of it) when the time is right (off and on throughout your life) by having you experience all sorts of things, sometimes wonderful and sometimes painful.
Now, for those of you in the midst of one of those painful experiences there is no need to shout to the heavens, shaking your fists at the heavenly hosts in righteous indignation for putting you through this. The truth is, you signed up for this. It was all laid out for you and you chose it all, lock, stock and smoking barrel. It is called a soul contract. You had things you wanted to experience, improve upon, or even make up for and this Life that you chose was the quickest way to do it.
You might even be thinking to yourself “That is just not fair.” I have thought that more than a time or two. What isn’t fair is that we buy into the Societal template (after all it is so FUN…or is it?), we chose it over and over again. All the drama, politics, scandals, television, social media, fashion, food, alcohol, drugs, sex, sports, money, music and on and on and on. It is one endless distraction after another and we get stuck in it. We don’t have too. It is called Free Will, you can freely choose to experience the Societal template and then move on or you can get stuck there and forget that you and you alone have a choice.
The first, and in my opinion, best way to begin self-mastery is to stop comparing yourself to everyone else. Its a trap and it is instilled at a very young age. How many of you as children heard your parents say something along the lines of, “why can’t you be more like your brother, sister, cousin, etc.?” We waste so much time and energy buying into the “idea” of needing to become perfect that we never attain perfection, partially because that ideal is always changing. If it isn’t a “perfect” family member to live up to it’s co-worker, friend or a celebrity. We are hardwired to compare ourselves to others. It is much easier to just accept “you” as you are, perceived imperfections and all. The very thing you might think is a flaw may in fact be your greatest asset. Be Authentic, Be You! You will be happier human in the long run.