The Unchangeable…

years ago, when I was a teenager, I had suffered a setback and was devastated. My father shared a pearl of wisdom with me: “You can’t change the unchangeable.” I admit that his words pissed me off and so I was dismissive and missed how profound that statement was until I was in my 30’s and was sharing it with someone else. Epiphany!

Now, what exactly constitutes an unchangeable? In this day and age you can change pretty much anything, given enough money, technology and determination. The real question should be is it worth changing? Why? Quite simply because everything is already in a constant state of change. So, changing what is in a process of change anyway is kinda crazy if you think about it too deeply. You know those old adages of “don’t count your chickens before the eggs hatch,” and “don’t put the cart before the horse.”  They are all about doing things in their time, not getting ahead of yourself and stalling out and mucking up the system. In short, you are going to get there anyway so why rush the journey or as I prefer:

Knowledge + Experience = Understanding

We all possess an inner knowing, call it a gut hunch, sense, intuition, etc., it is a knowledge that we are aware of  “something” but don’t yet grasp the pertinence of all the information. Life, the messy, mundane, roller coaster ride that we go through day to day helps us to put more of those missing pieces of data into the mix. Those seemingly unrelated constructs are actually a working pair dynamic that results in an understanding of life and our place in it (hindsight is 20/20 type of thing).

So, the next time life throws you a curve ball and you are wishing you could change something either about yourself or a situation, take a moment to step back and remind yourself it is already in a state of change, and it is okay that you are not happy with the direction that it is going, but one day you will look back and you will understand why it happened and how it made you stronger.


Photo: Tangled by Pamela

Nikon DSLR 5300

Along a Bulgarian Roadside Somewhere Outside of Lovech

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